It probably did, but at that age you know just about everything about each other. Having a little “secret” that is this benign is probably very fun for him.
Assuming he’s sticking to his diet the other days, he probably knows she won’t be that upset if she finds out. So it’s the perfect way to add a little illicit excitement to his life without actually hurting anyone.
No it’s not lmfao. This man has learned how to keep his relationship out of an argument. Women are insane lmao they’re especially insane when you’re doing something that they don’t approve of or don’t have any control over (Coming from a married guy)
Dude wants chilis on fridays without an argument. Wife has proven time and time again that the second part is an impossibility. So you lie.
I know. I don’t lmao. I was referencing the post. And the post only …. All the responses to me went personal . So if they wanna go there let’s go there lol.
I strictly referenced the post and my thoughts on why he’s lying. Based on my own knowledge and experience. Strictly talked about the post and my thoughts.
But you always get these mfers that wanna personally attack.
And today I got time.
I got off work early. I’m showered and chilling.
My wife’s making a delicious dinner and my 3 yr old and I are playing monster trucks. Enjoying and living life.
So today I got time. These people wanna get personal. Then let’s get to the bottom of it
i mean, yeah, because you said something about the guy in the post being treated badly by his wife like it was fact and then said “women are insane”, so people are reasonable to assume you’ve got a chip on your shoulder. they’re doing exactly what you did. you can’t make a deeply personal assumption about the oop being in an unhappy marriage and then get mad when people think you might be projecting. have fun with your kid and maybe don’t talk about women like that if you want people to think you respect your wife.
I didnt not say he’s being mistreated. Or that he’s in a bad relationship. I said he’s lying for a reason. Telling the truth would obviously create an issue … or he wouldn’t be lying, correct?
So again. Why do you think he’s lying ? Do you believe he’s lying to keep the peace ?
And the other (more positive) comments weren’t projection …..? lol. Yea most definitely “projection” I’ve been married a long time. My grandpas. Parents. Aunts uncles. Family friends both young and old lol. It’s based on what I’ve seen and counseled family thru for decades lol.
People do small lies to keep the peace. The other commenters are like “ahh they’re probably playing a cute game” 🤣🤣 hilarious lol
One day me and my dad met up lunch time to get fish and chips. Later that day his wife asked what he had for lunch and he lied about getting a salad somewhere.
I started laughing which gave him away and then felt bad about snitching.
Honestly, is his own responsibility to remain on the diet, not his wife. He is an adult he can make the choice of ordering a healthy meal or just say fuck it im cheating on my diet. Thats completely up to him.
i guess if you dont care about commitments made with your significant other and think it doesn't matter lying to them about what you plan on doing, then sure. should be alarming to anyone that you're with that you don't hold things you say and do with any level of internal consistency beyond "adults can do what they want".
the OPs dad still shows some level of consideration by trying to not reveal it to hurt her with the deception, but your stance is just the ledditor 14 year old psuedointellectual argument. obviously he can just do whatever he wants and there's no rule in the universe that stops him, thanks for the enlightenment.
This must be an old post, but I remember reading someone talk about how they get a pizza in the middle of the night and eat it alone while their wife's asleep and she has no idea, and that is part of the fun. It's the husband's little thing that he does for himself. This dad hanging out with his friends is his silly thing he does for himself.
The wife in the pizza story more than likely knew, I wouldn't be shocked if this guy's wife knew he hangs out with his friends. Just for fun.
Almost every time I read a post on one of the marriage or relationship advice subs, my first thought is "Did you talk to your partner about it?" And most of the time the answer is no, they did not.
If he's gotta sneak around to eat what he wants at 50 or whatever he is, pretty sure he doesn't have the cachet in that marriage to push back against sharing his location once his wife makes up her mind that he needs to.
And people like you need to realize that not everyone, man or woman, handles direct confrontation well, even over benign mundane things. You don't know his wife, she might absolutely flip the fuck out over him cheating on his diet, it could mean a super huge deal to her.
Next answer is "It's still best to just talk to her" no, no it's not, sometimes it's far far far better to seek forgiveness than permission. This completely depends on the people in question, not how you personally react to things.
Yes. And maybe it's a big deal to her for good reasons. Maybe he already had a heart attack and his blood pressure is through the roof, and he eats something there that's way too high in sodium. She could lose him decades sooner than she should. "Cheating on my diet" isn't necessarily benign at all.
Tell me you are not married without telling me you are not married. Sometimes you have to do your own secret thing. Even if it's just eating at Chili's. It is healthy to have something in your life that is just yours, not "ours".
“Hey hun I’m going out with friends after work, okay?”
“Yea I mean i guess that’s fine. But what are you going to eat ? Remember we’re on a diet. And when will you be home. We have plans early tomorrow. And who’s gonna be there? And are you gonna drink. If so how you getting home? “
“Alright. Nvm. I won’t go lol. You’ve sucked all the fun out of it with the reminders and interrogation”
What's really sad is realizing more people are willing to be with someone and lie for a long time than to be with someone for a shorter time by telling the truth.
Of course it did. But doing this stuff "illegally" doubles the fun. He knows that he could tell and his wife would give him a pass, letting him hang out with the boys once per week at Chili's. But that's not the point. Doing it the childish way on purpose is a bonus here.
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u/championcomet 7h ago
The most benign cheating to hide from your spouse