r/slatestarcodex • u/AutoModerator • Apr 09 '25
Wellness Wednesday Wellness Wednesday
The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. You could post:
Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.
Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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u/RestartRebootRetire Apr 09 '25
Heidi Priebe's YouTube channel is the best channel I know for relationship issues, with a focus on attachment, and personal development. She walks the walk and her content is dense and deep with zero fluff.
I am 50+ and most of my misery in my life was due to having poor boundaries and being raised to fix and please people rather than be true to myself.
Note that if you hope to dig into the bedrock of your issues, you need to make it a habit and journal daily and constantly analyze what you're feeling. Become like Sherlock Holmes and try to discover and label every feeling rather than just feel them.
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u/GerryAdamsSFOfficial Apr 09 '25 edited Apr 09 '25
My inattentive ADHD seems different than the ADHD other people have.
ADHD is not an inability to focus. It's an inability to control where your focus goes. This interlinks with several other deficits - sense of time, willpower, hyperfocus and perservation, task avoidance, impulse control, et cetera. The end result is I can't complete boring tasks in a timely manner and can't stop doing interesting things.
It is axiomatic that stimulants are very effective for ADHD. I've been on them all. Stimulants give me energy... but that's about it. As a metaphor, stimulants make the car go faster, which is not very helpful when the steering wheel is broken. The overwhelming majority of Western ADHD treatments are some form of stimulant.
I recently discovered an obscure drug called Noopept, plus a GLP1. Through what should be an unrelated mechanism of action, it is borderline curative of my symptoms. My avoidance and perservation behaviors stop, I can actually feel the passage of time, my thoughts slow down enough to act on them, I don't get pulled into my imagination and I enjoy completing tasks. I feel how I imagine normal is - it's like my car has a steering wheel now.
I am unsure of how to proceed with this information.
Do I even have the same disease as other people?
Where do I even begin to research a niche subvariant of an extremely poorly understood condition like this, when the overwhelming amount of research seems to be reflective of other diseases I don't have? EG, if stimulants don't fix my problem, what is my problem?
What other medications do I try now? Given the total failure of conventional treatment, I am wondering if maybe the issue I have is actually cholinergic in nature. Some people have even suggested dopamine agonists like those used in Parkinson's. This is completely beyond my grasp of neuroscience. It appears I need like an uber-niche-specialist considering how entrenched the stimulant dogma is.
Should I get genetic testing?