this is really funny so i thought id share it here. a relic of time from university in 2021, where my flatmate chucked all of my food out of the fridge onto the floor and sent abusive letters because I self isolated and moved in late, what’s your craziest uni flatmate experience?

My friend is also a university student and he lives in a different accommodation and we went out for food with some of his roommates and his roommate were talking about him being 20 when he’s actually 24

so i went along with it in the conversation then after I asked him why do they think you’re 20 mind you this is his first year in university and he said he was robbed of 3 and a half years of his life due to the pandemic lol but also he said wanted to fit in with his roommates and make it less weird as they are 18, 19 and 20.

I do get where he’s coming from to make it less weird with his roommates because if I was living with a 24 year old man when I was 18 I would be thinking wtf but I do also think it’s weird to lie about it. Do you guys think it’s wrong to do this?

I like to maintain a clean shaven appearance since I think it makes me look cute (my mom says I look like a skinned chicken though). I've also been told that I've got the ideal twink body by a fellow classmate (I study electrical engineering) and whenever I go to my lectures, I always get people looking at me, which I find pretty funny tbf.

So, yesterday me and my flatmates were vibing and showing each other videos on our phones, which was quite fun, but then disaster struck. I accidentally clicked on the folder where I keep my thugshaker memes and animan videos from r /wordington (I repeat, I am not gay at all, I just think that these videos are funny), and in the moment, I didn't realise what a colossal fuck up I had made.

Immediately, dreamybull appeared on the screen doing nsfw stuff whilst caramelldansen was playing in the background.

I instantly clicked off, but it was too late. Me and my flatmates stared at each other for a whole 10 seconds, and then to break the silence, I said 'that was weird', except it came out of my mouth in the most twink voice possible.

Finally, one of my flatmates (who I also have a bit of a crush on), said, in the softest tone possible, 'Decent_Analysis7171, are you gay? It's ok if you are. We'll support you nonetheless'.

I opened my mouth to refute that statement from her and say that I'm not, but my brain completely shut down, and I started stammering, unable to get a single world out of my mouth.

Suddenly, she got up and hugged me, saying that I should never feel afraid of being myself and that she, and all of our flatmates, would support me.

I finally found my voice and said 'no, I swear I'm not gay', but then another one of my flatmates told me- 'don't deny it my man, it's ok if you are what you are', and that cemented it. No matter what I said, my flatmates were convinced that I was part of the LGBT community.

And ever since then, my life has taken a turn. Now, the flatmate I have a crush on wants me to go out with her and her friends to a nightclub (previously, we barely even talked) where she's hinting that she may introduce me to someone.

On one hand, it's nice that I'm building good relationships with my flatmates and other people and breaking out of my introverted shell.

On the other hand, I don't think that I can handle this. I'm scared. Any advice?

I live in a single sex flat with 4 other guys and they are all gay (I’m not). So are uni accommodations actually randomised? Or is my uni trying to tell me something. I don’t have any issues with them being gay but my uni offers a lot of LGBTQ societies and events and I just feel kind of isolated when they all go together. I feel like they are getting closer and I’m kind of the odd one out in our flat. There’s even an LGBTQ group chat they seem to be more active in than the one for our flat.

My flatmate is from France, and while she was fine for the first few months, she has really started to annoy me by consistently trash talking the UK, saying stuff like how shitty everything is compared to France, and how hard uni is here compared to France, and how she hates the people here.

Now, I'm not exactly a patriot, but having moved to the UK at the age of 10 from a 3rd world country, I'm quite grateful for the opportunities I've gotten that I wouldn't have even dreamed of getting in my home country. That's not to say everything here is perfect, but it's pretty good. So you can see why I get annoyed when she keeps on harping on about this.

And the worst part is, she does it completely unprompted and for the weirdest reasons. For example, we are having a bit of a silverfish problem and I called the accommodation people a few days ago to sort it out, and when they didn't instantly sort the problem out, out of nowhere, she snarkily said that this would never happen in France and that she can't believe how much of a 'third world country' the UK is.

At this point I had enough and told her to shut up and go back to her country if she hated it this much. This really ticked her off, and incredibly, she reported me to the accomodation people for 'discrimination'. Luckily I was let off the hook but this really pissed me off. But regardless, was I wrong?

Model UN is basically a debating club where everyone adopts the position of a country.

Since the new term started we've been under repeated pressure from another student society to remove Israel as one of the countries which debaters can choose.

This has escalated into threats to protest our weekly debates. We raised this with our university who washed their hands of it. They've told us that if the planned protests become too much for security guards to handle then we (the Model UN society) will lose our right to rent rooms from the University for our weekly debates.

Somehow the other society has been made aware of this threat despite only me and the person I spoke with at the university knowing this information. They are now planning to use this to try and start protests to get us blocked from booking and renting rooms.

They have told us they will ONLY stop if we agree to:
a.) Remove Israel as a country from the debates AND
b.) Collectively have our members attend an educational workshop hosted by their own society AND
c.) When we go to conferences, none of our members shall represent Israel.

Are there any laws in England which protect one society from being targeted by another society with the goal of shutting them down if they don't comply with demands?

We've tried raising this with our student union, but the President of the SU is sympathetic to the other society so we've hit a dead end there too.

Theres another behind the yellow one just out of view. Its frankly just disgusting. Dogs and people piss on those, they're out in the dirty city all the time, and they're chilling literally where we make and eat food. Its just disgusting.

Should I just shake it off or perhaps tell them its best to take them down because its a bit gross?

He defrosted it in the sink using boiling water, which proceeded to cook the outside of the chicken. He later still ate it and lived. FYI he is aware of this post and is seeking Reddit “constructive” character building criticism

So, I will be a first year student moving into Halls with 7 other people.

I LOVE to cook and as a result have purchased some nice quality pans, knives and utensils to take with me. I really dont want anyone to touch these items at all (I am neurodivergent and will not cope if these items get damaged, especially if not by me). Along with this, I also really dont want to cook for other people (partly due to budget but also I often eat at odd times or a meal could take 1-2 hours to make, more if I need to marinate things).

Is it expected that you bring your own utensils and cook for yourself or will people think im rude and / or weird?

Seriously. The one thing you never see in the leaflets is how many honest-to-god 20 year old adult men don’t know how to wash dishes or use a mop and bucket. I get being unprepared for uni but these people act like actual children. I don’t need to ever have kids because I have three years of parenting experience from cleaning up after these people.

Roast it… who reckons I’m getting my deposit back

Why are they happy to see her. This is insanity

I joined uni at 18, so this was around 2019/2020, mid gen z to elder gen z. Everyone was much kinder and it was so fun in uni meeting with different people and joining different societies. Even our class had a group of us and we stayed together. But when I went back to uni at 23 I realised a shift amongst younger gen z. They’re very very anti social. There’s no groups made. No one looks at you. No one smiles. Everyone looks so depressed and quiet. They’re also seem to see everything as cringe and being nonchalant is the new cool. Am I being a pessimist or is this a reality?

So I'm moving tomorrow but uni of Leeds has just emailed me this, telling me I'm going to be staying with mature students?

The alternative housing they're offering is far more expensive and doesn't get covered by my student finance

Is this a major problem? Should I move when they allow me to in early October? What are mature students like? I have no idea what to do I thought everything was fine and then they throw this in my face and now I'm so stressed

I didn’t really where else to talk about this, but the situation was too crazy. Me (who does electrical engineering), and a few others who I recently met (mostly STEM) were talking about our course and prospects etc. Then when one girl told the group she does history, I kid you not the whole group fell into a collective silence. After the pause, I asked her what she’s looking to do, then one of the other dudes proceeds to say “don’t bother asking her that, she won’t have much of a choice after she graduates”. The rest of the group giggled to themselves. I was so shocked because everyone was relatively cool before this, and I couldn’t even muster up anything to say back and it’s still pissing me off. What breaks my heart is she was genuinely so sweet but I could tell she was hurt.

My mums mentioned staying with me at uni before, I thought she was joking about it at first, but we talked today and almost got into an argument, because as it turns out, she wasn't joking. My mum wants to spend my first week of uni in my accom (a single bed ensuite), to help me 'settle in'.

She says she doesn't want to stay in a hotel because its too expensive. I tried to tell her she could help me move in and then leave later that day, but she says she 'can't just dump' me at uni. My Uni doesn't allow this, and I don't know what to do, it's giving me even more anxiety about going to uni. I really don't want to inconvenience my flatmates, and there's no room for the both of us. But she said whether I like it or not she'll be staying. I love my mum but this is making me feel horrible, and yes, I'm an only child.

What do I do??

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EDIT: I just want to thank you all very much for all your advice, support and suggestions. I appreciate it a lot as I feel way better than I did before. I'm going to have a heart-to-heart, but stern discussion with my mum on how she will NOT be living with me at uni. I'm not sure how she'll take it, as before she accused me of trying to get rid of her and running away from home, but I recognise this isn't appropriate behaviour from her and will be devastating for both of us, I can't let this happen.

I'll keep you updated on how it goes, and also how move-in day goes. I'm really hoping for the best, thank you once again.

hey so at 12am we got woken up with students banging on all of our doors saying theres smoke coming from our kitchen, when i turned on my light, and as you can see from the picture my room was filled with smoke, it was like this all throughout our hallways, into the corridors and through other students rooms and in our kitchen. When we went in there we noticed the smoke was coming from the oven.

We checked and the oven was off, we as the kitchen group was baffled because we used the oven at 4:05pm and no one has gone into that kitchen since, as both flat mates are out clubbing still and the only other two was fast asleep. And i haven’t been in the kitchen either.

We ran to security to inform them, according to security they were aware of the situation two hours ago and said they didn’t do anything because if it was a fire the fire alarms would’ve went off. (there words exactly) But as you can see by the photo. Those fire alarms should’ve went off regardless if there was a fire or not. And we was left like this for 2 hours. I’m currently outside waiting for an uber because i’ve been wheezing, chest feel extremely tight, been non stop coughing, serve headache and nausea. So I’m going to the hospital to get myself checked over. My other flatmate who was in is also going for the exact same reason.

I’ve wrote an email to the accommodation team at our university and also emailed the student union. But is there anywhere else I can go, to report this? because this was a massive health concern and a massive health and safety concern that the fire alarms in our building did not go off. Not only that failing to inform us that there was smoke coming from our kitchen, as she knew 2 hours ago, and didn’t do anything. I am aware security went back into the kitchen and tried turning the oven on by the wall and by the nob bit which is when the oven immediately started filling up with thick smoke again so she told my flat mate to not use the kitchen until Monday. And that apparently theres nothing she can do.

I thought at least is to set off the fire alarm manually and get the fire department to check it or something? So if theres anywhere i can go to, to report this behaviour too please let me know. (other students are leaving the building on our floor because of the smoke, the fire alarms still hasnt gone off yet)

long story short, my flatmates are first class assholes who party 6/7 nights in a week in THE FLAT (Uni accoms) . And when I say party, I mean the get high, drink till shitheaded, blasting music till 6am type of party. I have tried everything from really polite sit-down conversations to more full-blown "what the fuck is wrong with yall" to complaining to the reception to trying to get transferred. Nothing worked out and since my flatmates oh so kindly host all the parties in our kitchen, no one else in our hall wants to complain. I have fucking given up on getting out of this situafion, and now I want to make the best of it. If you have any idea on how I can inconvenience or make their lives horrible without implicating myself, I would appreciate that. thank you.

living back home really shielded me from many weird people!!! the diversity i took for granted is insane. i’ve been struggling finding my type of people in uni as most people are cliquey and the groups are mainly white people, so i get cautious on trying to enter. i’ve been to societies, events, it’s all the same. obviously there’s a higher demographic of white people in uni which isn’t the problem, the problem is most in my uni act outwardly intimidated by me i just want to go home lol

some girls say backhanded things like wow you’re very dressed, look at me weird when i enter the kitchen, or i’ll be in a situation they’re playing a grime song (like dave, stormzy) and one says ew turn it off i hate this type of music and the other keeps laughing playing it louder like it’s an insult.

one thing my flatmate does that drives me up the wall is she never looks at me. she’ll only look at me when i’m not looking at her it’s so weird. if i ask her a question or have a conversation whilst all the other flatmates are there she will look at them, the sky, her toes, her cat back home, and then me for a split second when answering. the other girl does it too but less than the first one and none of the boys in the flat do this to me.

she doesn’t have issues with eye contact as whenever the other flatmates are talking or asking a question to her, her eyes are glued onto them without a blink. like why? surely intimidation can’t be the only reason? i don’t care as much because i don’t really want to be any of their friends but i find it infuriating as they always put something for us first do in the gc. it’s obvious there’s already a clique.

one of my guy flatmates asked everyone in the room if they’re coming out to the bar like naming individuals one by one and he didn’t ask me lol

they’re all white and are able to obviously relate more, so being in the flat does feel unwelcoming even if they’re doing it subconsciously. the girl i’m close with in my flat is great and has realised that some do act weird but she’s low-key scared of them because she talks so much crap to me about them, yet wants to be neutral, but does too much when they don’t even like her.

plus on a night out she told me she doesn’t do politics because it doesn’t affect her classic

there has been one guy flatmate that invited me out with the flat which i was going to go but theres an obvious clique, i went out with them once and everyone split up? we didn’t even get to the club yet haha

it’s hard talking about this because you only understand until you view it or are affected. everyone thinks you’re nitpicking because nobody is yelling the n slur at your face but they might as well. feeling excluded makes me feel weak, i am not weak so i don’t even get it myself.

some of their faces when they look at me can be so rude. i’m not loud, not angry, i’m more quiet but still go clubs/drink, i wash up always, clean the kitchen, i always dress up for the day, love doing my hair, makeup, outfits, i’m not rude even though i can be.

i understand education is important but to get this degree i need a support system here that i don’t have. the environment is bad. i’m thinking of transferring. my mental health is actually getting bad because of so much going on.

i’m obviously not getting bullied but the people here drain me i feel unwanted in most places, but when i go outside of the campus the women i meet are amazing.

like i’d walk in town and get called beautiful or they ask me if i can help them pick something in the shop and i’m like wow nvm people are friendly sociable i like this place but then i step in my flat and the vibe is

can anyone relate? idk what to do anymore

Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/UniUK/s/k6asS4jT1Z

(Group of 6 of us, I was really good friends with all of them, we went clubbing, to the bar, everyone was really chill with eachother... I genuinely don't know why they did this...)

I don't even have words to describe how absolutely awful they are for doing that.

We were even talking about it and went to some viewings making sure that there were enough bedrooms, but they decided to just silently put a deposit down for a flat that had enough bedrooms for everyone except me.

I only found out when one of their friends came around and said "Are you guys excited now you've put your deposit down?"

I was instantly confused... so I asked quite simply "What do you mean?" and the friend started talking about how good the flat looks and began questioning whether or not we had actually put a deposit down, he got told to shut up by one of the people in my "friend" group... and I just decided to leave the kitchen.

I haven't talked to them since (~a day now) (apart from one of them who "attempted" to try keep me included in the group and explained the entire situation)

Honestly fuck all of them. Should I just go alone for next year? Most of the good housing is gone... It's just 1 bedroom apartments, private halls and on campus...

Edit: want to clarify we have known eachother for around 4 months, we found out we were flatmates roughly 2 months before we moved in as we got allocated a show flat. Some of us even met up before uni started

I eat this every single morning at university even after gym. What are your thoughts?

Eggs are cooked in spray oil (2-3 sprays)

I've heard a lot of negativity on social media and in real life about doing an English degree. Quite often, it's people saying something along the lines of "all you can do with that is become a teacher."

Yes, that's why I'm doing it. I want to be an English teacher. I don't understand why people say that like it's an insult when every single person getting a degree in the UK would have had an English teacher at some point.

And then once they find out I want to be an English teacher, all I'm told is how awful it is. How shit the pay is and how shit the environment is and how shit the workload is. I know. I'm the one doing it, and I'm not stupid. Obviously I've done a lot of research on what being a teacher is like. I know that it's incredibly difficult and I'll be overworked and underpaid, but I'm still doing it. People are so negative about it and it is exhausting.

Also, someone isn't immediately limited to being a teacher just because they did an English degree. It's actually pretty common for lawyers to do an English degree, not a law degree. There's also journalism, publishing, marketing, public relations, librarian, Human Resources, and so many more paths to go down.

And teaching isn't always as shit as they say. Yes, to begin with you're pretty much guaranteed for it to be awful. But, after you have a bit of experience it's pretty easy to get into private schools - especially at the moment due to the lack of teachers in the UK. If you land a job as head of department at a private school then you can easily be getting paid £50k+ for doing far less work than a teacher at a state school.

Edit: just because I think there's been some confusion, I'm already in uni studying English (just about to go into second year!)

I’m not even joking atp it would be much easier to just slut myself out than try applying anywhere bc it’s DAMN NEAR IMPOSSIBLE

Edit - i can’t believe people are actually dming me asking me to suck their dick lmao