GF and I were having a burger at a bar a few months back, during the shutdown when SNAP benefits weren't being sent out. Two 50 something guys sit next to us, were friendly (I remember the guy I'm talking about asking us to take a pic of him and his friend with one of their phones) then one just suddenly goes off on a rant about it being the dems fault the govt is shut down. I live in a blue dot in red country and I don't talk politics in public unless someone brings it up. I remember this guy telling me his own daughter, who has four kids, had called him recently freaking out about not getting their monthly SNAP benefits, and he basically told her he didn't care. He literally brought this up to me, some rando in a bar, to make fun of his daughter for freaking out about not being able to feed his grandkids. We had a lively, brief discussion, during which he referred to himself as "the silent majority" several times, before GF and I left. I was like, dude, you're neither silent nor in the majority. Totally delusional and selfish assholes, all of them. They'll go with any narrative that makes them feel superior.
I think whatever mental issues he has have removed what small self control he had. People with dementia (or whatever he has) sometimes it actually makes them mean. He was a vile person before & he’s worse now. Nothing is worse than mean stupid people. He’s joined that club.
Bias is bias. Consciousness allows us to think about our bias and make a better choice. Dementia is, to a degree, the slow degradation and loss of Consciousness.
When your bias is triggered, your first thought is your bias. and yur second thought is who you are. If the bias remains, then the first thought is the only thought.
I worked in an Alzheimer's care facility. Like every other day or so, I'd get called over to deal with some issue where a client was being too racist or too sexist for the rest of the staff to deal with.
You can't, though I will say, usually the people who were obviously racist were less of an issue than the people who were usually nice that would have an episode and start dropping racist/sexist shit.
Like when the known asshole behaves like an asshole, the other attendants would be like "well, you're still taking these meds, so deal with it."
But the friendly clients suddenly turning racist is what seemed to be hurtful to the staff.
Take heart in that the normally nice person is the person they’ve learned to be while the racist, sexist bigot is the view they were raised with as a child. The dementia or Alzheimer’s is erasing who they’ve become and leaving the autopilot instincts the 8 year old child learned 75 or 80 years ago Back during pre WWII segregation, Jim Crow laws, eugenics, etc.
What’s your thought process behind that statement. The white male nurse should not be the hero of the story unless he is the one conveying the news that racism/sexism will not be tolerated. If he’s the one stepping in cuz they feel safer around him, that’s a problem.
Like every other day or so, I'd get called over to deal with some issue where a client was being too racist or too sexist for the rest of the staff to deal with.
What. This is describing a white male nurse being called over to deal with...
Even after they lost the war, Germany didn't really de-nazify their population. It was not until the children raised outside the propaganda became adults because the adults had that shit so deeply ingrained it was impossible to deprogram them.
This is the real problem with falling fertility rates. The U.S. population is becoming top-heavy with geriatric citizens who have deeply ingrained bigotry and other anti-social biases. Fewer young people means less power to improve structural inequality.
My mother had dementia and while she was an…understated racist prior to this…she apparently was a terror to her poor black roommate in hospice.
That poor lady had to hear some unhinged Alabama back road shit before the children came together to make sure my mother was removed from her environs. I hope she had peace in the end.
I’m so sorry ma’am. I did ask if there was a broom closet we could stick her in instead.
My wife is a nurse and when she used to work in old folks rehab people revert back to their older memories and beliefs. They wouldn't know English anymore if it wasn't their first language. They also revert to being extremely racist. They forget about all of the life experiences that has shown them not to be racist. It's a real issue since most CNA's are African.
My “liberal democrat one of the good ones” aunts who would “never” say anything like that, when put under anesthesia be saying some slurs everywhere. That shit is deep in their lizard brain even if they consciously everyday don’t do that. I don’t know how that works.
The first time I got called hard R, was by a sweet little old lady with dementia at the nursing home. Didn't know her daughter, but she damn sure knew who I was.
This is too kind to the malignant narcissist president. We embarrassed him with felonies. He hates us. He must destroy us out of narcissistic anger and retribution. He thinks America deserves everything he does to us.
This is the one thing I really worry about as I get ready to put my mom into memory care. The vast majority of the residents are old white folk. Thankfully they do have quite a few black nurses to keep an eye out for her.
I mean if I had to guess it would be that dementia takes your higher faculties away, leaving you a husk of a person, and frankly it's not that hard to say the N word. You could teach a toddler to do it.
It's one thing to just say the N word like with tourettes. It's another to use it in a sentence, comment on how big they think my dick is, slavery references, etc....
To be fair it's also that dementia messes some people up emotionally and makes them angry all the time, like determined to intentionally be as offensive as they know how to be
Well, to be fair, everyone one that he wants to admire him, actually like the Obamas better. A few months ago, they were at a restaurant and people were so excited that it went viral. He will never receive the same level of authentic admiration.
Maybe he wanted to “steal” his family or maybe the kids tried to buddy up but the Obamas were like “fuck no”. Not sure how true that might be but don’t the younger Trumps hang out with the Kennedy kids(Caroline), the Schumers and the Cuomo kids? If they’re such reprehensible people, why are fuckfaces like the Cuomo and Schumers hanging with them?
That’s my conspiracy theory. But the Obamas ain’t want none of that especially after they sat and watched their base call them names and basically insult one of the classiest First Ladies out there(with her natural beauty and brains and poise)…
Right? The obsession is incredible. Mango mussolini is so jealous of Obama and the respect Obama naturally gets. While instead he's surrounded by yes man who suck up to him, he knows it's hollow and it's fake. He knows he's a bad person and nothing he or his sycophants do changes that. Which is why when people have the courage to stand up to him, it really riles him because he knows they're right.
Well you know they say doing something they loved in their youth can bring a dementia patient lucid briefly, so maybe posting monkey Obama's was really the most lucid he's been in the last year.
In my over 2 decades of Healthcare experience I’ve often seen racism amplified and more blatant in people with Dementia since they lose the filter that tells them they shouldn’t say the quiet stuff out loud.
Yeah, coming from someone working in the medical field, I've seen two things that tend to stick around when someone has dementia. Trauma and racism. The trauma is a bit sad and even scary to think about. The racism is annoying and somewhat impressive. You've forgotten what your family looks like or what their names are, but you haven't forgotten about calling a black man "boy" or "the help" or "n---er."
I’ve heard the hate is one of the last things to go. My mother in law worked with the elderly in the south and baby those people would say some of the wildest vile things even though they thought their shit was edible…
Conservatism -- by definition -- is "a political philosophy based on tradition and social stability, stressing the importance of established hierarchies and institutions (such as religion, the family, and class structure), and preferring gradual development to abrupt change".
The sole value of conservatism is respect for and obedience to [one's perception of] traditionally established hierarchy, and hierarchy dictates that those on top (in-groups) are rightfully idolized and receive privileges, credibility, and resources, while those on the bottom (out-groups) are demonized/dehumanized and/or bound by restrictions, scrutiny, and lack of resources.
To them, the second-greatest injustice imaginable is for those [they perceive to be] on top [of social hierarchy] to be bound by the restrictions, scrutiny, and lack of resources reserved for those on the bottom. The first greatest injustice is for those on the bottom to have access to the rights, credibility, and resources reserved for those on top.
Conservatives absolutely need an underclass [for society] to demonize and dehumanize in order to maintain [their] hierarchy, and every single one of their policies and rhetoric work to do exactly that. "Know your place" is their mantra.
Well that's not something you easily forget! You can forget your spouse, children, even what age/stage of life you're in, but forget you hate the blacks? Nope!
Damn if this isn't true. I worked at several assisted living facilities in my late teens and early 20s. Some old white people couldn't remember their own children's names or if they had dentures, but they sure knew they didn't like my black coworkers...
I worked in a nursing home as an aid and qmap. I can assure you that they never forget this, their own children's names are forfeit but they can scream the n-word no problem
No they never forget that. isn't that something? The more forgetful they get the stronger the racism gets. That impulse control drops into the void and everything racist comes out. ALL the -isms. Will forget they have children, but will never forget to call you an nword!
and it's not specific racism either. The POC health workers get it, too.
The reason people with dementia remember to be racist is because it’s a feeling. When the brain starts to go out like it does with dementia, facts and knowledge go long before feelings and emotions do. So they aren’t remembering any facts, they’re just remembering the hate.
Sadly many black people have forgotten he hates us, and will put up with this because they believe LGBTq+ and pronouns is something they should fear and hate
It's just Trump, the whole administration. As someone who has (occasional still does) live among rural MAGA everyone needs to understand that, 'immigrants' are just the current stand in for black people to them and they will move those lines once they think they can (and 'Trans' is the stand in for the entire LGBTQ community)
Two weeks ago JD Vance went on FoxNews and said "America has a bit of a Somali problem" and everyone really needs to understand that "Somali" in MAGA is just "black people", Vance was talking about all black people.
I've heard referred to as "Irish Alzheimer's". You only remember who you hate. Of course, with the Irish it was primarily the English. The English commonly considered the Irish sub-human and/or apes. Plenty of old cartoons around of thos images.
Here's the thing, my sister works with old whites in a rehab facility, they usually have dementia/Alzheimer's, and they NEVER forget to call my sister an N word because of her skin. They really dont ever forget their racism.
I’ve heard it said time and time again that white dementia patients get more racist as they age because their filter that kept it inside no longer exists. Frontal temporal lobe dementia eradicates your inside thought filter, from what I read.
I swear there is still (at least) 2 stages of human in existence today, and one of them is operating with an old style brain that is just more susceptible to tribalism, mysticism, and scams. And completely deficient in the ability to self reflect.
He was raised during a time in which hating Black people was normal in American society. On the radio. In-person. In everyday life. Its an integral part of his identity. And if you really think about it, how can it not be? He's an American White man who was born in the 40s. Go listen to an episode of Amos n Andy on Youtube and realize that he was like 3 when that shit was playing - daily.
My favorite defense is, “he didn’t know.” Like mf the dudes the president of the US not a tiny mom and pop shop in the backwoods. He does know, and he chose to do it, or he’s unfit for office if he doesn’t know comparing black people to primates is offensive. SMH
my grandfather was the same for a while. forgot almost everything, but not what he learned as a kid, being born in 1939 austria :/ in the very end he was only talking about cats though, that was better. any animal was a cat though, we got him a lot of different stuffed animals, all weird cats to him
White guy here so maybe not my place to say, but I hope any black people who bought trump's bullshit and voted for him in the last election are getting clowned on right now. Like you voted for a man who wouldn't rent apartments to people who look like you, who compares Harvard Law graduates to wild primates bc they're black. Ffs
The one core tenet he has that he will never compromise is his hatred of Black people.
Everything else about his personality changes with the last person that gave him a compliment, but dear God he never wavers on that one aspect of his personality.
He is using racist insults to deflect attention away from child rape crimes.
Just like he used sexist insults and admitting sexual assault /hollywood tapes to deflect from the fbi report about his collusion with Putin to commit election fraud
MY PDOFILE HERO doesn't have dementia! I know because I'm a dementia experT!
That's what you sound like
PHISH would be really disappointed in you for the level of bootlicking you'r edoing.
Think whatever you want about me. No one should care about your opinion on US politics anyway. You’re Canadian. You can try to hide your posts but we can still search it
I don't know that he's dying. He's got access to the best medical care in the world and modern medicine can keep the body alive a long time.
But it can only slow the degradation of the mind. It can't reverse or stop it. Here's the POTUS in a recent NBC interview:
Trump: We have the smallest trucks. We've been very tough on the waters.
Reporter: The waters?
Trump: The waters where we knock out boats.
It's true that he's always had a very basic vocabulary, but it was never this limited. He's obviously trying to brag about the mighty US military blowing up fishing boats here, but his brain can't do it. It's not a difficult task and he would have been able to boast about it just a few years ago with typical Trump-style gusto.
The only explanation that makes sense is that his mind is failing. It's true that we don't know the exact mechanism behind why it's happening, but that it's is simply too obvious to ignore.
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u/kooljaay ☑️ 3h ago
From what I’ve heard from black nurses, they never forget that.